The Forever Roommate


By: Lucy Chavey


I went on a retreat this past November. It was with a third of my class and I only knew a few people that were going to be in the same retreat center that I was in. Since I didn’t know many people, I hate to admit that I was a little bit nervous. We had small groups as well as a roommate and neither of them we could find out until we got to the retreat center. Once I got there, I found out who was in my small group and who my roommate was. I didn’t think much about it until the next day or so and I realized how happy I was to have that person as my roommate. My roommate’s name was Claire.

 As I thought about this, I pondered some questions and their answers. One question was, “What do I like about Claire?” My answer was that she was nice, happy, usually optimistic, thoughtful, and just overall a fabulous person. Then, I thought to myself, “What would it be like to live with her or someone similar; having her be my roommate now and always?” I decided that I’d be okay with that. Then later I thought some more. I am my own roommate. Always. No matter where I am in the world, I’ll always be with me. I realized that if I am stuck with myself, then I need to love myself and be happy with me.

 I don’t want to live with someone who is always pessimistic and doesn’t like themselves. It’s not how we are meant to be treated or act. I understand that some things we can’t change. But the things that we can change, we must change. If you aren’t happy with yourself, you are the one that must change. Nobody can force you to change. It’s amazing that one can have so much power without anyone else being able to lead you astray. Become someone that you want to live with, that you love, that makes you happy. Whether you like it or not, you will always be with you. Embrace it! We are made for happiness! Be happy!

 A lot of the time, we don’t like to be called weird. It’s like an insult to be called weird, but it shouldn’t be. No two people are weird in the exact same way. That’s awesome; it’s unique. According to the dictionary, weirdness is “of strange or extraordinary character; odd or fantastic.”  It can be good or bad, but the majority of the time, it is amazing.Who would want to be just like someone else? There would be no diversity. What’s the point of meeting people and having conversations with them if we are all the same people? That’s why we need to embrace being weird. It’s fun to be weird. It adds excitement to our lives. I found a quote on social media that was posted by “Rebel Circus Quotes” that said, “I admit that my weirdness is above the national average, but I am comfortable with that.” Those people are so much happier.

Happiness is our choice. We can choose to be happy despite our conditions, or we can choose to be miserable. Remember that you are your own best friend. You can choose to love and be happy with your best friend, or you can choose to hate your best friend and be unhappy. Personally, I think you should choose to love her. Sure, she may be weird or have flaws, but she is beautiful because she is made in the image and likeness of God, who cannot contradict Himself. She shouldn’t be treated any other way.


Lucy Chavey is a junior in high school at Father Gabriel High School in Ann Arbor. She loves to do many things, but you can always find her either holding babies, laughing, or helping whoever needs it. 

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