By: Ava Marcarelli
Something that’s been on my mind lately (and I’m sure I’ve written about this on the BLR blog before) is the future. A lot of you ladies reading this might be having a ton of pressure put on you to decide your whole future now, whether that pressure comes from your school, your parents, or yourself. If you haven’t experienced this yet, you will. There’s so much pressure towards the end of high school and all throughout college to choose the right path for yourself, and I think a lot of students get so caught up in this that they feel like a failure if they don’t have it all perfectly planned out or stick to their original plan. I’m here to tell you not to worry. There are two important things I learned during my journey into adulthood that I think you high school and new college students should know: 1) no one knows what they’re doing, and 2) God’s plans are better than yours.
As a kid, most of us have the impression that adults have life all figured out. However, I just graduated from college last month and I’m still not sure what I want to do with my life. I’m not going to take the time to lay out my whole journey for you (it’d be too long), but I can tell you that my life looks nothing like I would’ve imagined in middle school, high school, or even the first two years of college. I’ve experienced things I would’ve never dreamed up on my own. I moved back to Michigan, I lived in South Korea for six months, and I became friends with people I didn’t even like at first! (Ask Elizabeth Muise…she loves to tell that story.) And after living in a house with six other women, I’ve realized we’re all just trying to swim after being tossed into adulthood. We’re still figuring things out, even if we have found our dream jobs. That’s because we’re always growing, always changing, and always becoming better. And all of this we can attribute to our devotion to the Lord.
The reason my life has become something I hadn’t imagined—something better than I could’ve imagined—is because the Lord has given me things I didn’t even know I could ask for. He’s brought me more happiness and fulfillment than I could’ve achieved on my own. And although I’m not sure where I’ll be or how much I’ll change once the end of this year rolls around, I know that it’ll be even better than it is now. All the best things in my life I can attribute to Him. As He says to us in Jeremiah 29:11, “'For I know the plans that I have for you,' declares the LORD, 'plans for welfare and not for calamity to give you a future and a hope.’” He has so many gifts to give you! He wants to form you into a better person and a better version of yourself! You just have to let Him. He will not disappoint you. Although the answer might not come right away (I’ve been trying to figure out what I want to do for years now), through prayer and discernment, He’ll answer you and more. Just remember this, which we all seem to forget: He is God and you are not. The quicker you give in to that, the happier you’ll be. Good luck, ladies!